You can love being a mom and not love it every single day.
Welcome back!
This post will be a bit shorter because the message is simple—but so important. If you read part one last week, I hope the biggest takeaway was this: it is okay to not love parenting every single moment. That doesn’t mean you don’t love your babies with your whole heart. And it certainly doesn’t mean you’re failing.
You are allowed to do motherhood in your own way. You know what’s best for your kids. Period.
Everyone’s version of "hard" looks different. Everyone has a different capacity, different circumstances, and different challenges. What feels doable for one mom might feel impossible for another. So why do we keep comparing? It’s like comparing apples to kiwis! (Yeah, not even oranges—because at least oranges are the same shape! LOL.)
Motherhood means everything to me. I value my role in my children’s lives more than I could ever put into words. But here’s the thing—there is so much guilt and shaming out there that makes moms feel like admitting something is hard means they’re ungrateful. And I want to change that.
You are allowed to say that motherhood is hard.
Saying it’s overwhelming doesn’t mean you’d trade it for anything. Saying you need a break doesn’t mean you don’t love your kids. It just means you’re human.
My therapist used to remind me that the fact that I worry about being a good mom means I already am one. And I think that’s something so many of us need to hear. The pressure and guilt that come with motherhood are some of the biggest reasons moms struggle with their mental health. So what if, instead of holding it all in, we started normalizing these conversations? What if we allowed ourselves to say, “This is tough,” without fear of judgment? If we can shift that narrative, maybe—just maybe—we can lessen that burden on ourselves and, in turn, on our mental health.
Even though my journey through motherhood has been a rollercoaster, I’ve found something beautiful in the chaos. The hardest moments have made me appreciate my kids even more. The little moments—the goofy smiles, the belly laughs, the unexpected “I love you’s”—feel like winning the lottery. The good days feel even better.
Right now, being at home with my little guy is all-consuming. He’s four, which means big feelings, big frustrations, and—let’s be real—being glued to my side 24/7. Some days, I feel completely drained. But I keep reminding myself: this is just a phase. It won’t last forever. So instead of resisting it, I’m learning to embrace it. He watched his older sister navigate big emotions, so sometimes I wonder if he’s mirroring that. But no matter what, I’m happy to meet him exactly where he is. Because even on the hardest days, I wouldn’t trade this time for anything.
I feel like every mom could write an entire book about her motherhood journey, right? And not one of our stories would look exactly the same. That’s why I share—not because I think my experience is harder than anyone else’s, but because acknowledging struggles should be normal. There is already so much unnecessary mom-shaming out there. Stay-at-home moms vs. working moms. Breastfeeding vs. formula. What you feed your kids. How much screen time you allow. Whether or not you ever dare to say out loud that motherhood is exhausting. It’s endless. And it needs to stop.
Parenting is hard enough without turning it into a competition.
I recently posted on Threads about the SAHM vs. working mom debate that constantly floods social media, and it was so refreshing to see so many women on the same page—moms who value motherhood for what it is, not for who’s "doing it better." Because here’s the truth: there is no “better.”
There’s just doing what works for your family, in your circumstances, with your best judgment. And who is anyone else to tell you that’s wrong?
So let’s stop tearing each other down. Let’s stop making moms feel like they have to justify their choices. Let’s just support each other. Because at the end of the day, we’re all just trying to do our best for the little humans we love more than anything in the world.
Let’s focus on the goal of just raising healthy kind humans shall we?
And most importantly this is your reminder that you can love being a mom but not love it every day. You’re still a kick ass mom.
